I found this “LETTER FROM A MOTHER TO A DAUGHTER” on the internet
"My dear girl, the day you see I’m getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I’m going through. If when we talk, I repeat the same thing a thousand times, don’t... interrupt to say: “You said the same thing a minute ago”... Just listen, please. Try to remember the times when you were little and I would read the same story night after night until you would fall asleep. When I don’t want to take a bath, don’t be mad and don’t embarrass me. Remember when I had to run after you making excuses and trying to get you to take a shower when you were just a girl? When you see how ignorant I am when it comes to new technology, give me the time to learn and don’t look at me that way... remember, honey, I patiently taught you how to do many things like eating appropriately, getting dressed, combing your hair and dealing with life’s issues every day... the day you see I’m getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I’m going through. If I occasionally lose track of what we’re talking about, give me the time to remember, and if I can’t, don’t be nervous, impatient or arrogant. Just know in your heart that the most important thing for me is to be with you. And when my old, tired legs don’t let me move as quickly as before, give me your hand the same way that I offered mine to you when you first walked. When those days come, don’t feel sad... just be with me, and understand me while I get to the end of my life with love. I’ll cherish and thank you for the gift of time and joy we shared. With a big smile and the huge love I’ve always had for you, I just want to say, I love you... my darling daughter. "
Happy Mother's Day
I don’t have the privilege of caring for an ailing Mother. My mother was taken from me much too early!! Her dad lived to be 96, and we all thought she would live to be that old as well. She was diagnosed with cancer at the age of 65 and passed away two months later.Within ten years time we lost both sets of parents, a brother, a brother-in-law, and a nephew. My mother has been gone 16 years. My children don’t have grandparents anymore but they sure have lots of fun memories and we talk of them often. Don’t take people for granted, go and make the extra effort to show someone you love them!!
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~another post about my Mom can be found here~
Blessings ~Sara
This is beautiful!! I also lost my mom very early she was 60 when she passed away. I was 26!!! I miss her dearly. Thank you for the lovely story
ReplyDeleteMy mom is still with me, my grandmother passed a few years ago and I remember experiencing all those things with my grandmother since she lived with my mother until she passed. Your post made me think of her and I cried.
ReplyDeleteOh Dear Sara - You do not know how much I needed to read this right now. It is as though you can peek through that computer screen of yours and see my thoughts. I am so grateful that my mother is still with us - "issues" and all....We lost my father all too young (he was only 45).....Unfortunately, some of my siblings find my mother's care burdensome and "inconvenient" these days - even though she has provided house and home for one of them and his family for the past 20+ years. I'm sure too much info - but, I truly appreciate this post - more than you can know..... Hugs ~ Robin
ReplyDeleteHappy Mothers Day Sweet Friend
ReplyDeleteJust beautiful. Truly touched my heart.
Thank you for sharing
Love & Joy
Trace
www.grannytracescrapsandsquares.com
Dear Sara~
ReplyDeleteI thank you from the bottom of my heart, for sharing these beautiful words. Though I cast my burdens to the Lord, I often find solace in the words of others, who share their thoughts about a similar situation that I may be going through. I truly needed to stop by here today to read your post.
My husband and I have been caring for his Mother for almost two years now, as her health continues to decline. She is in the final stages of kidney failure and this past week has been especially emotional for us as she has told us she is ready for the Lord to take her home. She is the Mother I gained the day I wed her son 36 years ago.( I was eleven when my own Mother passed away at the age of 33 of breast cancer.) We had thought we would convince her to move in with us but, being the very independent Yankee woman she is, she would not have it. So daily one or both of us go in and take care of what she isn't able to do, all the while being respectful of her by not just taking over. It's a fine line. Her mind is sharp as a tack it's the physical body that does not work. She has had fibromyalgia for many years which has recently made it extremely difficult and painful to walk and now has excepted that she needs a wheel chair more often than not. Taking care of her is the least I can do for all she has given me, taught me and having loved me like a daughter all these years.
Tomorrow will be and extra special Mother's Day for us I know.
Blessings and Happy Mother's Day to you~
Hi,
ReplyDeleteThat was such a sweet post and a very timely reminder to us all about what is truly important!Happy Mothers Day to you. I hope you have a wonderful day filled with love!
xoxo
What a lovely post. So true. Happy Mother's Day to you! Take care, Janice
ReplyDeleteOh Sara, I am wiping my eyes. That is so sweet. There is a similar letter written by a Parkinson patient to his family and friends,if we would only remember this. I loved that and certainly wish I had my Mother to be patient with. Thank you.
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